Communities and forums
Find your people.
Kova doesn't run its own forum. The good ones already exist. Here's where to find them, organized by where you are in the process.
Worth knowing. These are external communities. Tone and quality vary. Most Reddit communities are heavily moderated and tend to be plainspoken and supportive; some Facebook groups can be the opposite. We've only included ones with a track record we trust.
If you're just starting
For people in the research and consultation phase, before treatment begins.
r/IVF — first cycle threads
Reddit · Reddit forum
PlainspokenRoughly 200,000 subscribers. The pinned threads for first-time IVF have a wealth of practical advice. Search before posting — your question has been asked.
VisitResolve.org — peer support groups
Nonprofit · Live (virtual) and in-person
WarmResolve is the National Infertility Association nonprofit. Their support groups are vetted, free, and led by trained facilitators. Many are virtual now.
VisitFertilityIQ patient discussions
Patient reviews · Forum
CuratedCleaner UX than Reddit, smaller community. Useful for comparing clinics and reading detailed patient reviews of doctors.
Visit
While you're in a cycle
Day-of cycle support, monitoring updates, dose questions, the long stretches.
r/IVF
Reddit · Reddit forum
Highly activeThe most active general IVF community online. Daily threads, vent posts, retrieval and transfer recaps. Use search and check pinned weekly threads.
Visitr/InfertilityBabies
Reddit · Reddit forum
WarmFor people who have moved into pregnancy after infertility. Often quieter and gentler than general pregnancy forums, which can be hard after treatment.
VisitCycle-specific Discord servers
Reddit · Live chat
Lightly moderatedr/IVF maintains a list of cycle-buddy Discord servers organized by retrieval or transfer month. Smaller, faster than forum posts, more chatty.
Visit
After a loss or failed cycle
Grief, between-cycle decisions, second opinions, the question of stopping.
r/ivf — failed cycle support threads
Reddit · Reddit forum
PlainspokenWeekly threads for failed cycles, biochemicals, and miscarriages. Posters are direct and kind.
Visitr/MisCarriage
Reddit · Reddit forum
WarmSpecifically for pregnancy loss support, broader than fertility treatment. Good for the early weeks after.
VisitResolve — pregnancy and infant loss groups
Nonprofit · Live (virtual)
WarmVetted groups specifically for people who have experienced loss. Some are led by therapists who have lived this themselves.
Visit
Path-specific communities
Surrogacy, egg donation, donor sperm, donor embryo, and LGBTQ family building.
r/Surrogacy
Reddit · Reddit forum
PlainspokenFor intended parents and carriers. Search by phase: matching, contracts, transfer, pregnancy, post-birth.
Visitr/eggdonor (recipients)
Reddit · Reddit forum
CuratedSmaller than r/IVF, focused on the recipient and donor side. Useful for fresh-vs-frozen and bank comparisons.
Visitr/SingleMothersbyChoice
Reddit · Reddit forum
WarmActive community for people pursuing donor sperm independently. Practical, supportive, lots of cycle stories.
Visitr/queerception
Reddit · Reddit forum
WarmFor LGBTQ+ family building. Reciprocal IVF, gestational carriers, known and bank donors, second-parent adoption, all of it.
VisitSnowflakes — embryo donation
Website · Program
CuratedNightlight's embryo donation program also runs support events. A useful entry point even if you choose a different program.
Visit
By format, if you want something specific
Some people want a forum to skim. Some want a phone call.
Resolve helpline
Nonprofit · Phone / email
WarmFree help and referrals from the national infertility nonprofit. Useful if you want a real person to talk to about which support fits your situation.
VisitRobyn
Website · 1:1 peer mentor matching
CuratedMatches you with someone who's been through what you're going through. The match is intentionally narrow (path, age, location, religion if relevant).
VisitPomegranate Health (Pom Pom)
Coaching · Concierge fertility coaching
CuratedPaid one-on-one coaching with credentialed nurses. Not free; useful if you want a specific person to text questions to between clinic visits.
Visit
A note on what we left off
We've intentionally not linked to general fertility Facebook groups, some of which are very large and very active. Quality varies widely there and moderation is uneven. If you find one you trust, that's great. We just don't feel comfortable putting our stamp on them yet.